Greetings, and I hope this post finds you healthy and hopeful. In stressful times like this it is more important than ever to connect with our inner strength in silence, to help maintain health, faith, hope and remind ourselves of our connection to the Creator and all life.
At this time, all classes are moved online to the Zoom platform. Please contact me to register, and I will send you an invitation to the meeting.
With the closure of MidSun Centre, and the Covid19 Crisis, our meeting is now an online meditation class! Please contact me for the meeting invitation if you are interested in attending. We use Zoom and meet weekly on Saturdays 5pm Mountain time.
Please contact me to register for this class. We meet in the basement of the MidSun Community Centre (50 Midpark Rise SE) in the Sundance Studio.
Please stop at the front desk to complete a mandatory waiver. (I will distribute digitally before Sat if I’m able).
We are seated on a wooden dance floor; bring a mat/cushion to get more comfy if needed.
Bring pen & paper; we will make some notes. (If you are so inclined you can dedicate a journal to this activity and will certainly find it rewarding!)
Reminder to use bathroom before class to minimize disruptions (it’s just down the hall) but don’t fret if you or your child have to get up & go!
“There is an invisible, infinite part of
ourselves that I call the soul. The soul is our spiritual core; it is the
divine spark of life that always was and forever will be. Think of this spark
as a light that burns brightly within you. This is the essence of who you are,
and it is contained in each breath you take.” James van Praagh, Meditations.
workshop is presented by Rosanna D’Agnillo, B.A., M.A., the founder
of Calgary Mindfulness, which offers meditation training to children
from pre-K to 12, as well as adults, athletes, teachers, nurses, girl
guides, and companies. She has taught in many Calgary schools, the
Women’s Centre, and at the Tsuu T’ina Reserve. Rosanna is dedicated
to promoting the support of mental health from the inside-out:
understanding the why and what within, and learning to sit with
ourselves in faith compassionately, as the foundation for taking
meaningful action and coping with our ever-busier world. For more
information, visit CalgaryMindfulness.ca.
New year resolutions got you down and out? Are you afraid to try? You’re not along. According to US News & World report, most people have given up by February, and most people start losing motivation in mid-January. Don’t give up hope; here’s how to get it right. This is called the S.M.A.R.T approach, and it’s used for business management goals, and also I learned it in the Royal Conservatory of Music as a way to teach children music!
So let’s apply it to our new year resolutions also! This method, importantly, promotes self-compassion in our goal-setting and achieving. Without this key ingredient of self-love, our goals can’t take flight! When our goals are only punitive, we are bound to lose motivation and create endless opportunity for self-sabotage.
S – SPECIFIC M – MEASURABLE A – ACHIEVABLE R – RELEVANT T – TIMED
Be SPECIFIC – That’s what the S stands for, is specific. It’s not enough to say, I’m going to lose weight. Be specific- I will lose 10 pounds. Or, I’m going to meditate–rather, I will set up a daily meditation practice. Your new year resolutions must be very precise or there isn’t any way to set up targets and measure them.
Set MEASURABLE goals –Visible progress is very motivating. What are you going to do to achieve your goal in a way that you can manage? Perhaps it’s not eat after 6pm. Or to walk 20 minutes, four times a week. I’m going to sit in practice 10 minutes in the morning.
Create ACHIEVABLE goals – This is where you might need a sanity check from a friend or family member about your new year resolutions. Since we like to set impossible goals that are not compassionate. “I’m going to be a size 4 like I was before I had kids.” If you do not have a meditation practice already, it is unlikely that you will sit in practice for 30 minutes per day. A realistic goal would be to sit in practice for 5-10 minutes in the morning before getting out of bed, or dedicating one activity for active mindfulness, such as washing dishes or driving. If goals are not achievable, with complete certainty we will self-sabotage and lose motivation, and risk getting on to the wheel of suffering and self-punishment, thus reinforcing our hidden, usually very old–and false– beliefs in our unworthiness and failure. In achieving small goals, we develop self-respect, self-esteem, confidence in our competence and so on.
Chose RELEVANT goals. There are many things we want to do in life – I would really like to learn to speak Russian, play the accordion like a pro, do a lot of hard core mountain climbing – but it ain’t possible to get it all done, and I have my physical limitations of time, ability, genetics etc. But it is reasonable that I can improve my sight-reading at the piano, or keep my spine limber so that I can sleep well and keep moving. When our hearts aren’t really in it, we can’t get anywhere. New year resolutions we set to please others, or to gain external approval are not right for us, so we can’t get traction. Rather, plan relevant goals–that is, plan from the heart: “what matters most to me, apart from the needs of my peers & community–so that I can achieve the highest and best for myself and community?”
Realistic TIME limits – How long do you think you’ll need to achieve your new year resolutions? Then add an extra 50%. That’s because we always underestimate how long it takes to get something done. Work in some slack-time or lapse-time into your schedule also. Otherwise when we get too behind, we lose motivation and give up. Our goals must be realistically timed to make sense in our lives!
Would love to hear from you on how this goes! Send me your stories. Kindest regards for an excellent new year and good luck achieving your SMART new year resolutions!
Three secrets to happiness in 2020 – happy new year and welcome to the new decade! I am remembering how freaked out people were by Y2K concerns twenty years ago; and can’t believe where the last 20 years have gone! Has it taken me 20 years to learn these secrets to happiness in 2020? YES. Because sometimes the easiest, simplest things are the hardest to believe and practice, since our culture and mindset in North America are oriented toward struggle and suffering.
What are these three secrets to happiness in 2020? Read on!
Secret #1 –Count your simple blessings. Do you worry about where your next meal is coming from? Do you have clean water? Shelter from the cold–a home, whether simple or large, and clothes, whether thrift or fancy–they all serve the same purpose and bring the same happiness. When our needs are always met, sometimes we forget how important these are, and we start feeling over-entitled, like a cranky toddler who can’t ever be satisfied. Overcoming these important challenges–hunger, thirst, shelter, safety–gives our life purpose, meaning, and fulfillment. Ask someone who has suffered physically–in war, deprivation and poverty and you’ll see what I mean. You won’t ever again take for granted the simple blessings that are actually pretty darn important.
For me as a single parent running my own business, and with no child support, and also previously there being mental illness and addiction in the picture when my ex was around: the ability to provide for my children, to keep a simple house, to keep them warm in winter and comfortable in summer: this is my second-greatest blessing ever, and even when I’m really tired and frazzled, I know great satisfaction from being able to provide. I don’t know if I would feel this gratitude had I not had a few years of great hardship getting on my feet again after divorce. I feel as though I will never take this for granted.
Epicurus, the Greek philosopher, taught that it is the removal of pain that brings true pleasure–a hot shower when you’ve been cold; finally getting to the toilet after a long wait – treasure these moments for the blessings they really are! I’m not kidding. There’s no great Oz of happiness out there somewhere; you’re in it right now, so enjoy!
What is my number one blessing? Well, that’s easy: connection to God, the eternal!
Secret #2 – Take in the wonder of your daily life – For city dwellers, surrounded by concrete and pollution and traffic and people, get out to enjoy trees, sunsets, mountains, walks, quiet, good smells, solitariness. For country people, get into the city sometimes to enjoy culture, buzz, fine dining. Familiarity breeds contempt and indifference; it is our nature. Material and sensory abundance have a numbing effect on our psyche: when we don’t have to struggle, we lose motivation and joy–we need some hurdles to overcome to feel renewed and reward. Our funny psychology! Yet we were wired this way to overcome great physical struggle for survival, and so let’s be compassionate with our nature, and surprise ourselves occasionally by enjoying something new right where we are!
I have lived all over the planet, and realize this after moving back to my native Calgary with my kids in my late 30s: where you go, there you are. Every place I’ve ever lived in is really beautiful, with many outstanding amenities–whether it’s desert silence or the bustle of an artsy city–and so place doesn’t matter; what matters is our attitude of seeking out and appreciating habits as something fresh.
Secret #3 – Self-controland discipline. A little self control goes a long way to helping us take great pleasure from our daily routines. When was the last time you felt really hungry? Really well rested? Took great satisfaction from watching TV? Don’t eat until you’re hungry; challenge yourself physically during the day so you’re physically tired at night (not just mentally tired) and limit pleasures like binge-watching, drinking, smoking, recreational drugs so that when you actually partake, you’ll really enjoy it but not get sucked into a negative cycle. Keep things simple; moderation is actually the way to achieve maximum pleasure from simple things like eating, exercise, entertainment. How do you feel after a big binge? Staying up all night with a TV show? When you’re really hung over or in a weed fog? If you’ve really pigged out at an all-you-can-eat restaurant? Terrible, right? Over-indulging always brings suffering. Self-control and simplicity brings self-respect, confidence, and helps us recognize the truth, that simple things are what bring happiness.
There’s my two cents about the three secrets to happiness in 2020! Enjoy. Kindest regards to you and your loved ones for ease, clarity, joy and wonder in 2020!
Hi there, here is a mindful listening exercise you can try with your family. This is a beginner mindfulness exercise, where we learn about the mindful body and practice mindful listening.
In mindfulness meditation, we can use the senses as as anchor. Listening, seeing, body scan, body sensations, taste, smell can be anchors for our mindfulness meditation practice, that bring us into the present moment.
Endlessly in our practice the mind wanders–because that is what the mind does! I heard Ringo Starr, a longtime practitioner of meditation, refer to the mind as though when it wakes up, eg, in the morning, it races off like a Ferrari. Yes, that it is my mind! That is the nature of the mind. A creative, excited mind will fire off in many directions at one time. This is what we are wired for; to build, create, problem solve.
And yet, without a break, the constant spinning of the mind will be exhausting for us! We need rest. Mindful listening allows us this rest.
Please listen to this podcast and come back for more.
Deloitte has released a study that proves companies which invest in preventive programs to promote mental health among employees make more money. Now, this seems very obvious–happy, motivated people make better results than depressed, unmotivated people! But now there is a study from a big company to prove that mental health investment pays off. Yes, it’s about time.
The study states that about 500,000 Canadians are unable to work at some point due to poor mental health or mental illness, and the direct/indirect costs are about $56 billion!
The fabulous news about meditation is that it’s free, instantly available at any time, and produces excellent results in terms of self-knowledge, clarity and equanimity when practiced regularity. Like water, it’s the gift that keeps on giving.